A freelancer is a person who is self employed. Freelance work is used in many different professions, but most commonly a freelancer works in the fields of writing and editing, photography, web design, graphic arts, or computer programming. In any given profession, freelancers sell or contract their work to a client rather than being employed by a business.

A freelancer’s career commonly begins with a business or agency at which the freelancer gains experience and contacts in a particular field. Often, talented freelance professionals leave their place of employment because their services are in great demand and they can receive better pay as a freelancer. A freelancer can work at home, in the community, or at their client’s place of business.

There are also many advantages for a freelancer. A person who is self employed can usually choose their own work schedule. Income may be greater than when working for an employer. A freelancer is his or her own boss and has the freedom to work independently, usually from the comfort of home. Freelancers also have the opportunity to pick and choose which jobs are of interest.

The down side to being a freelancer is that one must keep track of one’s own books. This requires a lot of self discipline in order to fulfill tax requirements, time management and health and retirement factors. Another disadvantage is that it may be difficult to maintain a steady stream of work. A freelancer is responsible for finding and winning projects. Sometimes, convincing a client to hire a particular freelancer can be a job in itself.

There are many websites that offer to connect clients with a freelancer. These services often have many freelancers who bid on particular projects that clients post. Other services simply post projects and allow freelancers to submit a resume and samples of previous work. A freelancer often can find projects through word of mouth, from a former employer, or from classified ads in print as well as on the web.

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For Three years I dedicate my life working as a freelancer since day one that I earn $100 for 5 days on my first project I keep the faith on freelance world..Today I work on my free time on some projects that deals with audio recording and back end oscommerce, magento and xcart projects at the same time happily employed full time in a globally renowned TOP BPO company.

It is how we cultivate and diversified our god given talent that really matters..as freely as we can.. we can be productive and earn online…
If you knew you are GOOD STRIVE more TO BE BETTER……..

“Of course it’s easy to feel thankful when things go smoothly and life just handed you a blessing”

“But faced with our daily challenges, we don’t know how on Earth we can feel grateful in the midst of debt, depression and complete overwhelm. It literally comes down to practice. Very few people go to the gym simply to be able to bench press 100 lbs, but rather to have energy and muscle strength to pick up the kids and the groceries, do the yard work and maybe not suck wind after climbing two flights of stairs.

Practicing Gratitude is the workout for our soul: repeated awareness shifts towards the blessings of our lives enable us to not dwell on how someone has done us wrong or how life has supposedly handed us the shorter end of the stick. If you can condition yourself to look at the brighter side of life, it will only get brighter – especially while things don’t go your way!

“Seeing blessings in the little things has lead me to a much happier experience and prevented me from going further into complaining, depression and being unsatisfied with my life. When you put appreciation into sincere words, it actually manifests that intention. Auspiciously, there is now a lot of scientific research and proof that any mental activity, whether it be fear, love or inquiry, has a direct impact onto the physical world. Whatever we put out there, we get back. Gratitude is a beautiful way to let the Universe know what you love, what you are grateful for – isn’t that what you want more of?”

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he/she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But sometimes, a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself free, let your heart spread its wings and flies. Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still it will not rain forever. One day, the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It’s never too late.You may find love and lose it but,

WHEN LOVE DIES, YOU NEVER DIE WITH IT. You cannot be a redeemer all your life. The best way to weigh a relationship is through the test of fire. You cannot be a loser with your mistake forever. We all fall and make wrong decisions, but our blunders are not meant to bury us deep in misery, but to teach us the valued lessons of life. Loving is always a learning process… with love we learn how to CARE AND SACRIFICE.

We learn to SHARE AND REACH OUT. We learn to be UNSELFISH AND GIVE MORE THAN WE CAN. Then, when everything doesn’t end well, we learn how it feels like to fall and get hurt. But learning doesn’t have to end there. After our fall, we strive to get
back on our feet and move on. This is where we learn that LIFE DOESN’T END WHERE OUR HEARTACHES BEGIN. THERE’S NO FUTURE FOR A RELATIONSHIP OF LIES AND SELFISHNESS. It’s true, there is life in love. But, there can still be life even after losing love. If you leave the past behind and let your heart heal, then you give yourself the chance to find yourself again. The success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning, but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that…

HAPPINESS IS NOT A MATTER OF DESTINY BUT A MATTER OF CHOICE. There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer, but in the end, our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE. WHAT YOU NEED TO LEARN IS HOW TO ACCEPT THE VERDICT OF REALITY WITHOUT BEING BITTER OR SORRY FOR YOURSELF. YOU WOULD BE BETTER OFF GIVING THAT DEDICATION AND LOVE TO SOMEONE MORE DESERVING. Don’t let your heart run your life. Be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow.

IF YOU LOSE LOVE, IT DOESN’T MEAN THAT YOU HAVE FAILED IN LOVE. CRY IF YOU HAVE TO, BUT MAKE SURE THAT TEARS WASH AWAY THE HURT AND THE BITTERNESS THAT THE PAST LEFT YOU WITH. LET GO OF YESTERDAY AND LOVE WILL FIND ITS WAY BACK TO YOU. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. A woman on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made to falsely believe that she finally stumbled upon the right man…when what she just found is only someone to cover up for the love she lost. A man who makes a promise with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them.

IT’S TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER, BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. Love makes us see the things through rose-colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to recognize the danger sign that light up along our way. This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn’t healthy anymore. You must realize that you have to let go now before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always a time to think and stop. A time to be sensible and not to allow our hearts to rule over our heads.

YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY NOT IN THE ARMS OF A MAN/WOMAN WHO KEEPS
YOU WAITING BUT IN THE ARMS OF SOMEONE WHO WILL TAKE YOU NOW AND LOVE YOU FOREVER. If loving a person who is attached to someone else is a crime, then, maybe, many of us would have been jailed long before we realize what its consequences could have been. Loving someone is never a sin…it’s what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin

DON’T THINK ONLY OF YOUR FEELINGS FOR REAL LOVE DOESN’T HAVE A PLACE FOR SELFISH PEOPLE. When there is love, there is always sacrifice. When we love someone, we never easily give up on that person. Even is we get hurt badly, we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive. Loving too much doesn’t hurt…it is when we expect this love to be reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.

DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER REALLY CARED ABOUT HOW YOU WOULD HAVE FELT. OPEN YOUR HEART AGAIN AND GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO FIND THE ONE WHO WOULD MAKE LOVING WORTH THE PAIN AND THE SACRIFICE. Just like anything else, our love grows weak and dies, if not taken cared of. It can keep up with pain only to a certain extent. Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies.

GOD WAKES US IN THE MIDST OF A STORM TO TEACH US A LESSON. HE TAKES AWAY PEOPLE WE LOVE SO WE CAN LEARN TO VALUE LOVE ITSELF. HE MAKES US CRY SO HARD SO WE CAN SEE CLEARLY WHEN WE OPEN OUR EYES. HE MAKES US BITTER SO WE CAN REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO GENUINE HAPPINESS IF WE THINK ONLY OF OUR OWN NEEDS AND NOT OF OTHERS. Relationships built on jealousy and selfishness is doomed from the very beginning. The hardest part of losing love is letting go and moving on. Most of us cry endlessly over things that could have been but never will be. God allows us to experience pain to make us stronger and better persons. He will see us through the most trying and difficult times in our lives, and only if we put our trust in Him can we learn to find joy in our tears and happiness in our sorrows. In many failed relationships, separation comes as the inevitable choice but moving on always proves to be twice as difficult as letting go. Sometimes, our choice to hold on is beyond the control of circumstances. Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us. It is a resolution we make to ourselves. Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and time is the healer of all wounds. Even if the storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkness and loneliest moments. There is always hope for those who believe. There is always a chance for those who try.

LOSING SOMEONE WE LOVE MAY NOT BE A LOSS AT ALL BUT A BLESSING BECAUSE SOMEONE EVEN MORE DESERVING IS YET TO COME. There is nothing wrong in expressing our feelings to someone we love, but WE MUST ALWAYS BE SENSITIVE TO THE SIGNALS THAT TELL US WHEN TO RATIONALIZE AND BE SENSIBLE. There comes a time in our lives when we would fall for someone who wouldn’t be as interested as we are because his attention is focused on someone else. There are many times when we love but don’t get love in return. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN THE SIGN AHEAD SAYS STOP BUT WE STILL STUBBORNLY HEAD ON.

We would say our love is unconditional…but if it really is, then we should never feel bad. But why do we get frustrated when love turns sour? Because we still subconsciously seek acceptance and assurance from the people we care about.

BEING IN LOVE CAN BE THE MOST WONDERFUL THING WE COULD EXPERIENCE BUT IF THE FEELING BEGINS TO CONSUME OUR WHOLE BEING, THEN WE HAVE TO STOP AND LET OUR MINDS AND NOT OUR HEARTS DICTATE OUR ACTIONS. ONLY WHEN WE LEARN TO ACCEPT OUR FATE AND UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF OUR FAILURES CAN WE TRULY GO ON WITH LIFE. WITHOUT HAVING TO LOOK BACK AND CRY OVER THE THINGS THAT COULD HAVE BEEN BUT WILL NEVER BE…

Infidelity is a hard pill to swallow…What is it about infidelity anyway that drives us in the way that we are driven because of it—be it rage, resignation, disillusionment, despair, judgment or justice?

In my innocent mind when I was in grade school I often puzzled about the tag “kabit”, “kulasisi”, kalaguyo and other term they describe someone who is in illicit affair. I asked why a successful, married woman spends precious time and hard-earned money investigating the whereabouts of her husband. And now, I’m still confronted with the realities of difficult relationship challenges, and the questions continue although on some levels they have become more complex. My response, however, hasn’t changed.

Why not go directly to the source of your anxiety, fears, and grief where you can exercise your ability to effectively impact the situation?

Why not go to your partner—the person in relationship with you? What do you stand to lose that has not already been lost with the infidelity? What is there to be gained in pursuing anyone other than your partner, as far as the future of your relationship is concerned? Familiar answers include fears about losing the relationship, uncovering other, and perhaps more painful issues, and simply not wanting to deal with what is believed to be unchangeable. What is it about infidelity that annoys and even paralyzes us to the point where the ability to act as we need to in the interest of our well-being and relationships is seriously hampered?

To know what annoys us about infidelity we need to know what’s so important about fidelity. Why do we hate infidelity? The answer to that is linked to beliefs about the value of fidelity.

Despite the changes in the sexual mores of modern pinoy life, the majority of us still seek to entrust ourselves to someone special in an exclusive, and complete unity of oneness. We desire to be treated as a means in our self.

Infidelity effectively assaults both of these intentions.

It conspires against the love we seek to give and receive in relationship because it treats us as a means to an end. It denies the absolute beauty and integrity of the dignity of being a couple leaving us defaced, broken, and at odds with each other. And as science has shown that human bonding and attachment is every bit a biological experience as it is emotional, mental, and social, the damage of infidelity is really quite significant.

Someone once explained it this way. Human bonding is a lot like super glue—intended for the long-term…permanent. Like super glue, if we bond and pull away there is always some degree of damage. And, if you’ve ever had the unfortunate accident of having super glued two fingers together…you know the pain and difficulty severance brings on.

In the end, we hate infidelity because it betrays and slays us like nothing else can.

Becoming aware takes guts because you need to be willing to get at the truth about self. Most of us are convinced we know the truth about the other…and that may be true…how in tune are we to the truth about self! Relating well is tough at times, but always worth it!

Ask yourself this? Which woman or man is smarter, the one who is being cheated on or the mistress?
The situation mistress stand with this she has all (or most) of the benefits of the relationship with none (okay with out MOST) of the baggage. She doesn’t feel the pain from the wondering, fights to leave, and agony of finding out that the person you love and trusted and gave everything to betrayed you. And trying to forgive him of the pain he put on you when confronted, because the answer is one or the other. “I admit it and will stop, It will never happen again” – load of crap and 2 months later you find the same thing. Or “I am leaving you for her.”

I think infidelity annoys us so much because we don’t truly understand it. We all have this ideal of what we want our relationship to be, and how can you trust someone who is unfaithful to you. And the answer is “You can’t”. But when in the situation the hardest thing to do is to leave, and I think the reasons are just as confusing and frustrating as the annoyances with the cheating significant other.

You will be on your own you may have to move, explain the situation to the kids (if any), struggle with the finances on your own, not to mention splitting up all of the assets the two of you have acquired over the years, and the pain behind all of that, knowing that there were so many lies intertwined with what you built is truly devastating. Then you are now lonely. Imagine that, after all of the time and love and effort you put in to someone you are now the one who comes home to an empty house, you crawl in bed at night without the comfort of your loved one, you answer and do EVERYTHING for the kids. The thoughts are really scary.

If you choose to stay in the relationship you NEED counseling, I feel that this will only delay the break-up process if you don’t, Think about it . . . You are hurt and the only one you want to speak to it about is the one who hurt you. You have to look at him and with out a mediator search for the answers you seek. Your crying, upset and most of all, trying to act like it is “Okay” most of the time creating this elephant in the room. And as time passes the scars are still there but they begin to lighten, and he stays late at work. What are you thinking? He spends more time on the computer, What are you thinking?

Then there is the mistress, all she gets is the benefits of their relationship. She does what she wants, answers to nothing and at the end of the day 90% of the time, she knows about the main squeeze in the mans life. Maybe not at first, but she will shortly know that he is married or in a serious relationship otherwise. So she gets the late party nights (remember those days:)) less stress and in the end she has so little invested that she probably wont hesitate to call things off and move to the next guy married or not. She wont get the pleasure of the family time (or the stress) and has little to non of the fights. She does go to sleep alone at night (unless she is two timing herself) she has to answer only to herself. She will lay in bed at night wishing it was her he was in bed with, wishing he didn’t have to leave when they were together and wanting more from the relationship then he is willing to give. So it isn’t perfect for her, but who is smarter?

Then there is the man, he has the “privileged” of being with two different? women. He has the stress of lying to his significant other hiding what he is doing and juggling the emotions of 2 women (that can be hard for a woman herself!), and laying in bed wondering what he is doing with these two women. Yes his life is hard to, but that is because of what he is doing, and so what if is life with his significant other stresses him out, that is LIFE! Yeah, I am sure she sits at home with the kids she loves and adores, or working and handling all of the responsibilities she has, but does she use that as an excuse to have her a hot little side dish. For what ever reason I will never understand the mind of an adulterer.

And I do feel there is a difference from playing the field and all out cheating. When you are playing the field both parties are aware of what is going on and not that it makes it okay but there isn’t a foundation the infidelity destroys. So all thought the actions are the same it is easier to swallow.

Why does infidelity annoy us so much? because we trust that our partners are just as morally upstanding as we are.

Work from home opportunities require dedication and real work. It is not much different from any full time job. You need to have a positive attitude to get thing done and succeeding in a work at home business environment.

To work from home, you need to find out what your are passionate about. Do some market research whether the home business opportunities or freelance job is profitable. Also find out is there high demand in the market on the freelance opportunities.

One of the best ways to ensure success as a freelancer or home based business is to start part-time while holding a full-time job. However, when do you know it’s time to let go of your full time job?

The following list will help you decide if it’s time to make the decision to quit your full time job to full-time freelancer and home based business.

1) Find out if you are really benefit from your home based business. Freelancer, who are working from home usually see their business growing after the first few months. However, the business might slows down for many reasons, one of which may be that you are not able to concentrate on the business activities due to work timings imposed by your full time job.

2) Usually through a work at home business opportunity, you save both traveling costs and time. You enjoy flexibility, work timings and convenience too. When working at home, you are under less pressure and stress.

3) Ask yourself if you are capable of working from home. According to home business experts, before quitting your office job, it is better to stick with a home based business for at least one year to get an insight about the pro and cons of the home based business. That way, you will get an opportunity to check out all possible trends, which may occur within a year of managing a home business.

4) Freelancer who work at home also need to have persistence and perseverance. It is just like been your own boss and owning a home office.

5) Consider a comfortable and suitable place, which should offer maximum privacy and allows full concentration to run your business. Additionally, while you work at home, it is good to seek the support of experienced home based workers, as they may come up with valuable ideas which may be vital for the growth of your business.

6) You also need consider how to manage your finances. When you quit your full time job, the earnings fluctuate depending on the income drawn by working from home. Therefore, you need to plan your finances to cover childcare, daily expenses, mortgage payments and unforeseen emergencies. Check for any sound contingency plan that will take care of your financial problems in case your work at home business fails to drive a sound profit, as a preventive measure.

Finally, the right time to quit your full time job is when the home business earnings are at least the same as the income you get from the office job.

In my next post some trusted sites for freelancer to bid projects and win trusted clients.

If God’s will for us is to “give thanks in everything,” I truly believe that he had a great reason for wanting to act on this principle.

Our human nature is often very negative and self-centered. We look for the big things in life to be taken care of rather than being aware of how many small, very important things, have been given to us and provided for us. We complain about the color of our kitchen counter tops and the butcher block pattern, wishing for a new bright ivory ceramic tile. We forget to be thankful for having a place in which we can cook a hot meal or live in a country where foodstuffs are so readily available. We can complain about people touching our new carpet or furniture or messing up our house, forgetting to be thankful for the gift of friends with whom we can share the blessings God has given us!

Even in times of great sorrow and grief, there are things to truly be thankful for!

How about the ability to cry? Without it ,we would never understand the joy of it’s opposite. Laughter! When we struggle, we usually find that it drives us to a place of re-prioritizing our way of living and eventually, we find ourselves very thankful for the crisis or event that caused us to get our lives back on track! We receive the grace of friends who support us in our sorrow. Even our hardest grief is a reminder of the blessing of a person whose absence we will deeply miss. Yes! “In everything give thanks!”

How often have you been given a small gift or a word of encouragement by a friend or a fellow employee, but have taken for granted that your thanks was graciously expressed? It shows a tremendous amount of character in an individual when she is willing to invest a few moments to say thank you!

In our society, the three words “I love you” can become shallow and empty. Often the statement “prove it” is the follow up reaction, spoken or unspoken, from the opposite party. I personally feel that the two words “thank you” can also be very “surfacy.” They are often just two, quick, auto-programmed words that are just “thrown out there” due to socially expected etiquette. Underneath, in our hearts, the graciousness of what we’ve received escapes us.

Let’s not let our lives get so busy and so self-absorbed, that we forget to communicate genuine thank you’s to those who have blessed us. Let’s not let our frantic lives rob us of the gift of saying “Thank you!” to others and to God.

When we take the time to quiet ourselves and write out our feelings of gratitude to someone, something truly wonderful happens — both for them and for us. As we remember the act of kindness or gift given, we get to re-live the moment. We get to taste the feeling we had all over again! It also causes us to realize that the giver of the gift truly invested some of her or his valuable time, money, talent and soul in our life!

“Wow! Somebody cared enough to take time out to show love and concern for my well-being! They proved it by their actions.” So! If we really appreciate what someone has done, let’s prove it by our words of thanks expressed in the form of written words they can read and keep.

I would like to challenge and encourage you to love and value those who have extended their love and friendship to you. Take time to clearly and sincerely express your thanks in written form. Friendships are deepened, relationships are strengthened, and above all the desire of God’s heart for our lives is fulfilled by our giving thanks…in everything!

I sincerely thanks someone in my past who made me who I am now…He teaches me everything I need to know about life, love and survival…because if those things DIDN’T happened to me, I still struggle to find ME..sometimes we need to lost something very valuable in able for us to find ourselves AGAIN..
and for that I THANK YOU!!!

Scientists have identified a highly contagious virus, which we can only stamp out together. No, this contagion is not another strain of flu or spyware spreading from computer to computer.

It’s blame.

According to a Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, blaming someone else for one’s mistakes is a socially contagious condition—the behavior literally spreads from one person to the next.

People have the tendency to blame others for the problems in their lives, little realizing that others have no power over them unless they willingly permit themselves to be influenced by others. We have the capacity to guide our lives and control our situations. If we do not exercise this power and allow ourselves to become helpless or lethargic, the blame lies with us but not with any external agent.

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.

So if some thing unpleasant happens, should we blame others for it? Should we criticize any one for making us unhappy or disturbed. Should we place the blame on others for our misfortune? Should we trace our adversity to someone else’s unreasonable or inappropriate behavior?

What is the use of blaming your family, your spouse, your father or mother, your brother or sister, your friends or your colleagues, your society or your community for the problems and unpleasantness in your life? What is the use of expecting others to behave according to your expectations and then blaming them for not being so, when you know that they are mere players in the drama of your life and are acting so according to the script you have already written?

Your life is your responsibility. You have the freedom to choose the best of the options you have in any given circumstances, to choose the correct response as well as the right action. You have the power to control your thoughts and your actions and you can mold them in whatever way you want to. Indeed there are certain factors and forces which are clearly out of your control, such as the social, political or the economic conditions. But you have the ability to adjust yourself to these circumstances and act appropriately in any given situation.

A man can get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying.

So if something goes wrong, instead of blaming others and outside forces, look within yourself and find out what went wrong. Find out which movements and habits of your mind and body caused it. Is it because you made some wrong decisions, invited wrong people into your life, taken inappropriate decisions, failed to strengthen some aspect of your personality, did not put in adequate effort or allowed yourself into some kind of complacency? Using your best wisdom and ability to listen to yourself, find out which weaknesses in your personality are contributing to the problem or the failure and then try to overcome them.

When we blame, we give away our power.

You are in control. You own your life and you have the power to make it the life you want. You have the power to make the necessary changes, to move forward and be successful whether in your job, your relationships, or your health. Stop being the victim. Stop giving away your personal power!

Failure, disappointments and despair are indications that there are some elements in you which are demanding self correction and improvement. If you can identify the cause within yourself, you are likely to put a permanent end to the troubling factor. If you are failing mostly in your actions, you must realize that it is because your thoughts and actions are not in harmony with each other. You must realize that you cannot achieve success if you are in conflict with yourself.

Webster defines blame as to find fault with, to hold responsible. You can readily see, if you are blaming someone else for your life, you are not taking responsibility. Blame is connected to the concept of responsibility for action, omission or a trait of character. So if you are blaming others, how can you be responsible? All blaming others can accomplish, is to give you an excuse to fail. No one is responsible for your life. You are.

The superior man blames himself. The inferior man blames others.

This is the road to success, to overall perfection and improvement, to happiness and prosperity. When you look into yourself for possible causes of your failures and disappointments and stop blaming others, you are likely to make them your allies in the drama of your life.

YOU WILL NOT ACHIEVE SUCCESS IF YOU ALWAYS BLAME OTHERS FOR YOUR LIFE..

when you blame someone else for your lack of success, you allow someone else to be in control of your misery and therefore your happiness. You have to wait until that other person “lets” you be happy. Instead, if you stop blaming everyone else and accept that you are in control of all things in your life, than you have the power to be successful.

Signs You are Avoiding Personal Responsibility

It is often easy to spot someone else who blames others (they may be the one constantly complaining about how bad their life is, yelling at others, or harboring an overly negative outlook on life), but it can be more difficult to spot it in yourself.
If you do any of the following as a matter of course, you may be avoiding personal responsibility.

*You almost never believe you are wrong. If you asked others to be completely honest, they’d say you believe you are never wrong.

*You dwell a lot on the past instead of looking toward the future.

*You use other people’s irresponsible behavior to justify your own
(”They’re driving way over the speed limit, so why shouldn’t I?”).

*You believe apologizing is a sign of weakness (instead of what it really is … a sign of strength).

* You feel you have been dealt a “bad hand” in life.

* You view negative occurrences/relationships in your life as being out of your control.

*You don’t think you can change anything in your life for the better.

*You believe life is unfair and often feel sorry for yourself.

How to Take Responsibility, Stop Blaming Others and Start Living Your Life

Everyone blames someone else at one time or another. Nobody’s perfect. And you may even be thinking, “But it WAS my spouse’s/parent’s/boss’ fault that I missed my plane/don’t trust others/don’t make enough money.”

Next time you’re tempted to blame some else, accept responsibility yourself. Then, experience how much better you feel.

And it very well may be, but the key to living a long and happy life is knowing how to accept personal responsibility and not blame others — even when it may be their fault. This does not mean you have to go through life letting others walk all over you. On the contrary, accepting personal responsibility means you have to take the high road and be the bigger person, even when it’s hard. Here’s how:

* Apologize when you’re wrong (this means first accepting that you’re not always right).

*Admit when you’ve made a mistake.

*Learn to forgive.

* Be open to the ideas and opinions of others.

* Identify the things in your life that you are not happy about, and do something to change them.

*Practice saying, “I am responsible.” Eventually, you will start to believe it.

* Take smart risks, and realize that you are responsible for the outcomes.

*Adopt a positive outlook on life (assume that things will go your way).

* Recognize and embrace your own shortcomings, and ask others for help when you need it.

Always Putting the Blame on Others. For some people, the first reaction to a problem is to find someone to blame. Blaming is a defense mechanism to avoid taking personal responsibility for the situation. The blamer rapidly finds fault in the other person and criticizes them. Trying to find a solution to the problem is much better than looking for someone to blame. Blaming is a pattern in some families that keeps people from becoming closer. People who blame others or situations without taking responsibility for their contribution to the problem never get the sense of satisfaction of growth. By refusing to see their own errors, they lose the opportunity to change the very aspects of themselves that keep them stuck.

To create more harmony and happiness in your life, catch your errors of thinking and break into them. As the saying by Kahil Gibran goes, ‘If your heart is a volcano, how shall you expect flowers to bloom?’